"I'm sorry."

"You're right."

"If I may..."

"What do you think?"

Are these phrases prominent in your daily life?

When someone accidentally steps on your toe, do you apologize to them?

When someone asks you where you want to go for lunch to you hmm and haw and waffle?

Do you get countless opinions from others before you make important changes in your life?

Are you a people pleaser?

I think there are so many messages out there about who and what we should be and do. Nothing is ever good enough, we're always missing the mark somewhere. And for some reason, we just can't figure out how to figure it out.

Be cute but don't outshine.

Be smart, but don't make others look bad.

Be thin, but not too thin.

Be funny, but be mature.

Be charming but not flirtatious.

Be thin, be athletic.

Work, raise kids.

The list goes on and on of all the things we "should" be. And sometimes the rules of "should" change based on the situation.

This tends to end either one of a few ways.

You try to be and do it all. You become a classic obsessive-compulsive, perfectionistic, overachiever.
You get overwhelmed and begin to shut down.
You wake up and call bullshit.

Living in modern America is rough. It makes you second-guess everything you do, until one day you might even find yourself not doing at all.

As someone who has tried all 3 routes (I started with #1 until I burnt out and had a mental breakdown - now I'm working my way out of #2 and into #3), I have a history of talking about #1:

Chill out.
Stop and smell the roses.
Breathe.
Relax.
Meditate.
Prioritize.
Pare down.
Simplify.

You know the drill, but it's easier said than done, right? (If you are there, contact me. I can help.)

Or you end up in a position where the expectations and rules and not enough-ness becomes too much.

You either quit (quite literally) or get lost in the depression and anxiety that follows and end up floating through life on whims, the direction of others, and habits. Not really living. But getting by.

Or you say "Enough is enough. These messages from my external world are bullshit."

Deep down you know your actually pretty darn:

smart - your good at what you, you are capable of learning new things
attractive - the magazines at the checkout stand might not tell you that, but your spouse/real friends do
successful - you accomplish all kinds of things in life, make a difference, serve
helpful/friendly - you try to be a good person and are appreciated
....worthwhile. Period.

You're more than just "enough."

You are amazing.

You are a miracle.

You are a gift.

Your life has a purpose.

You have value.

You DO NOT need permission to exist. To have opinions. To make decisions.

Free Group Healing Session

No matter where you are on the continuum of self-love, self-worth, confidence, enough-ness, etc.... I think this is something that all humans struggle with on SOME level.

I have been wanting to give group healing and group support a try for a while now but my laundry list of what ifs and fears have been holding me back.

But enough is enough. I'm done with that story. People are suffering while I am worried about things that might never happen.

So I invite you to join me. Whether in support of my own journey, because you need the healing, your just curious, or you simply have nothing better to do ;)

Join me this Friday at 12:30pm Mountain time via Zoom for a live, group energy healing session around self-love, enough-ness, and releasing old stories.

If you can, please join us online at https://zoom.us/j/4873034072 Zoom is a wonderful tool that will allow us to see one another, share our stories, and record the session for repeat use (you will receive a copy of the recording for personal use). Note: the use of Zoom may require you to download their program and/or create an account. Please do this in advance so that we can begin right away.

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